Wednesday, June 06, 2007

BEING GIRL CHILD

Old Arabic tribes in Mecca (Saudi Arabia) were looking to the woman as shame, if some man gets girl child he wouldn't be able to show himself to the tribe, people would look at him as meaning of shame in the tribe,
Arabs were thinking the woman is the reason to get girl child and man has no relation with that, The Arabs before Islam were burying new born girl child, after woman gets new girl child his father takes her and goes to burry her to clean his honor, this also called ( shame laundry).
There is very common tale from that time in Mecca,
One Arabic man was burying his 6 years old daughter, when he was digging to make hole to bury his 6 year old daughter, the 6 years old daughter was cleaning her father's beard from dirt (soil), (children are innocent every time), Then, he buried her, but when he got another girl child, he took to bury her too, during burying: he remembered his buried daughter and how she was smiling and cleaning his beard, he started to cry and took his new daughter back to home, her mother was crying but when she saw her she became happy. (Her sister's act saved her life).
Islam prevented this action forever but Islam decreased woman's role and value in community, so woman's situation remained bad, after time people became looking to woman as shame but without burying new born girl children, you won't see this in Iraq's old history before Arabs come to Iraq; Iraq didn't have this Discrimination against woman, after Arabs came to Iraq this Discrimination came with Arabs to Iraq,
This is common in Middle East, this was explanation to make readers to understand the coming story about family and I wanted to give readers small information about the Discrimination against women. If we compare the Discrimination against woman in Iraq and other Arab countries we are going to find Iraq is better than other Arab countries


Iraq: Nineveh.
1989
About family in Iraq.

Family has four girls, mother and father, the father is very angry because he has no boy child, he does not play with his daughters, he screams on his daughters, actually he didn't touch any one of his daughters, he always spits on his daughters face and on his wife's face, the father was very nice man but he became angry and mad after he got first girl child.
The mother is pregnant, father is waiting with hope his new boy child but no one knows the coming baby's gender, The daughters are complaining from their father's action to their mother, Mother says "everything will be good when I bring you brother, you father will be nice again after he sees boy".
Four girls hope and pray to be boy the new coming child, they wish to see their father's face smiles and laughs to them.
Finally, new child came but she is girl too, when mother knew this she started to cry and father became angrier he left home to see his friend to talk about already planned about the new wife.
He brought new wife to home, his wife chosen silence about new wife because the community will give the right to the man to get boy but she is not satisfied about her husband's new marriage.
The new wife is pregnant and everybody's eye on new coming child but the second wife begot girl child too,
The father became very mad and he decided to marry third one, then, he did it.
After one year of his third marriage, the third wife is pregnant and father is waiting new child boy, the first wife is pregnant too, the third wife begot girl too, the father lost his last hope about boy, his first wife is pregnant but he doesn't care any more about it,
One day he was walking on the street, his neighbor told him that his first wife begot new boy child, he ran to home and he found his son from his first wife.
The father took good lesson from his life and he started to treat his huge family nicely.




DAY-BY-DAY IRAQIS LEARNED TO NOT MAKE DISCRIMINATION BETWEEN BOY AND GIRL.
THERE IS DISCRIMINATION BETWEEN WOMAN AND MAN IN IRAQI COMMUNTY BUT TODAY FATHERS TREAT THEIR SONS AND DAUGHTERS IN SAME WAY, AND LOVE THEM IN SAME VALUE, BUT STILL SOME FAMILIES HAS DISCRIMINATION BETWEEN SON AND DAUGHTER, IT IS ONLY 10% OF IRAQIS.



1 Comments:

At 11:05 AM, Blogger Me said...

asalamu alaykum,
Allah reward you for your efforts with this blog page brother. It has many inspiring stories. I just wanted to correct something you have written in this article. You wrote that:
"Islam decreased the woman's role and value in the community."
This is not true brother, i think what you mean is that Arabs, have returned to following their old jahilliyyah (from before Islam) culture of de-valuing women. As any muslim knows, women are held with respect and dignity in Islam as related in many stories of sahabiyat, as well as examples in the Qur'an. Unfortunately most Muslims believe they are knowledgeable without having to read from ayat or ahadith, as long as they just do what their father and grandfather did. This is why ignorance has spread in the ummah. Allah help us return to the sunnah of his blessed Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him).

 

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